In other towns where work and family life are physically separate, people are harrassed by inner conflicts which they can’t escape.
A man wants to live in his work and he wants to be close to his family; but in a town where work and family are physically separate, he is forced to make impossible choices among these desires. He is exposed to the greatest emotional pressure from his family, at that moment when he is most tired—when he just comes home from work. He is confused by a subtle identification of his wife and children with “leisure,” “weekends,” and hence not the daily stuff of life.
A woman wants to be a loving woman, sustaining to her children; and also to take part in the outer business of the world; to have relationships with “what is going on.” But, in a town where work and family are completely separate, she is forced to make another impossible choice. She either has to become a stereotyped “housewife,” or a stereotyped masculine “working woman.” The possiblity of both realizing her feminine nature, and also having a place in the world beyond her family, is all but lost to her."
To purge ourselves of these illusions, to become free of all the artificial images of order which distort the nature that is in us, we must first learn a discipline which teaches us the true relationship between ourselves and our surroundings.
Then, once this discipline has done its work, and pricked the bubbles of the illusion which we cling to now, we will be ready to give up the discipline, and act as nature does.
This is the timeless way of building: learning the discipline—and shedding it."